I know we must try making others happy by no conditions, no wish for a later "Thank you" or even not even being noticed that we were the ones who made it possible. But yet as human it really hurts when we notice the contrary. Let's not take a love relationship as example cause we suppose in this kind of a relationship there is a both-ways happymaking. But think about you helping a friend and then getting hurt by him....or a colleague at work...who didn't experience that? Moments when you swore you'll never do any good to somebody again. And that's even harder when you had as goal to make somebody really happy. Then the entire action seems to be a complete waste of time and energy.
immunity when it comes to getting your feelings hurt, then you should probably learn how to deal with this kind of situations. As it also happens to me and I still stand up and try happymaking others again and again (maybe not with the same person if I am too upset), here are some thoughts on how to deal with this "failure":
- admit it was not your fault and that trying to make others happy it's still a noble act and shouldn't be discontinued just because somebody disappointed you
- if you could really help the person who hurt you, then try talking about this one more time. After all the result can be more important than how you got to it.
- if one is bad then it doesn't mean that all people are so. there are still friends, colleagues, family or even strangers out there who really need a smile and your attention
- and last, try considering this less fortunate situation as a test of your capacity to learn more about people and not to give up on them